Principles of Self-Limitation: Causes of Self-Limitation

The causes of self-limitation are under listed below:

1. Family history/background: 

This cognition is familiar with people from poor heritage. Such people subconsciously place themselves under a I-can't-make-it-past-my-family-peak spell. Indigence seems to be the major reason behind such people's conviction and at such, celebrate meagre success with intense jubilation. Going the extreme miles to achieve new bounds doesn't work for them. They think, "I don't deserve...." and so do not expect or seek things.

2. Fear: 

Self-limitation is often fear-driven. Locking the belief in place is the fear that, if we go against the beliefs, deep needs will be harmed. There is often a strong social component to our decisions and the thought of criticism, ridicule or rejection by others is enough to powerfully inhibit us. We also fear that we may be harmed in some way by others, and so avoid them or seek to appease them.

3. Experience:

A key way by which we form our beliefs is through our direct experiences. We act, something happens and we draw conclusions. Often such beliefs are helpful, but they can also be very limiting. Particularly when you are young and have few experiences you may form false and limiting conclusions. Nature builds us this way to keep us out of harm's way. We learn and build beliefs faster from harmful experiences. Sticking my finger on a hot stove hurts a lot so we believe all stoves are dangerous and never touch a stove again. If punching another child results in a sound beating we may henceforth believe ourselves weak. 

4. Education: 

When forming our perceptions of the world, we cannot depend on experiences for everything. We hence read and listen to parents and teacher about how the world works and how to behave in it. But our teachers are not always that well informed. We also learn from what peers tell us and are 'infected' by their beliefs, which may be very limiting. Education is a double-edged sword as it tells you want is right and wrong, good and bad. It helps you survive and grow, but just because you were told something, you may never try things and so miss pleasant and useful experiences and knowledge.

How do you overcome self-limitation? Continue reading: OVERCOMING SELF-LIMITATION

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Author: LAMBE OLANREWAJU
Column: Midweek Drive

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